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Learn to read it, stay warm and strong, spot control early, and leave when it is unequal.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/difficult-conversations-review/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/difficult-conversations-review/Our review of Difficult Conversations: the three layers of a hard talk, the Third Story opening, where the evidence is thin, and how to use it at work.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/frame-control/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/frame-control/Frame control is deciding what a conversation is about before it starts. How to hold your frame calmly, spot a rival's, and keep it honest.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-apologize-and-keep-respect/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-apologize-and-keep-respect/A plain apology is a power move when it is short and followed by action. Three parts, one worked example, and when an apology backfires.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-be-confident-around-someone-you-like/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-be-confident-around-someone-you-like/Nerves around a person you like are normal. Five honest steps to stay present, warm and yourself, for women and men, with no pickup lines and no games.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-deal-with-a-difficult-boss/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-deal-with-a-difficult-boss/A five-step way to work with a boss who is hard to read or hard to please: understand their style, name the real issue and ask for what you need.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-find-your-blind-spots-at-work/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-find-your-blind-spots-at-work/Most successful people cannot see how they come across. A five-step way to ask for the truth, hear it without a fight and change one habit.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-get-promoted/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-get-promoted/How promotions really happen: build rare skill, make it seen, find a sponsor, ask clearly, and know when to move. Clean moves only.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-judge-people-by-what-they-do/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-judge-people-by-what-they-do/Charm and promises are cheap. Five steps to read people by their pattern of behaviour, at work and in dating, without labelling everyone a villain.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-make-a-strong-first-impression/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-make-a-strong-first-impression/People judge you in seconds and rarely revise. Five honest steps to start well in a new job, meeting or interview, for women and men, with no faking.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-say-no-without-losing-respect/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-say-no-without-losing-respect/A clear, polite no earns more respect than a vague yes. Five steps, short scripts for work and home, and the cases where a no costs too much.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/is-the-48-laws-of-power-evil/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/is-the-48-laws-of-power-evil/Is Robert Greene's book evil, or just honest? Which laws are tools, which are traps, and how to use the book without turning into the person it describes.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/king-warrior-magician-lover-review/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/king-warrior-magician-lover-review/Our review of Moore and Gillette's King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: the four mature energies, what holds up, where the proof stops, and how women can use it too.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/negotiation-tricks-and-how-to-answer-them/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/negotiation-tricks-and-how-to-answer-them/Six common negotiation tricks, from the extreme first offer to good cop and bad cop. See each one, name it without blame, and answer it in plain words.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/no-more-mr-nice-guy-review/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/no-more-mr-nice-guy-review/Our review of Robert Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy: why giving with strings backfires, which exercises hold up, and where the evidence stops.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/signs-someone-is-manipulating-you/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/signs-someone-is-manipulating-you/Seven signs that someone is working you, from vague answers to guilt that arrives on cue. For each: how to see it, name it and answer it calmly.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/what-is-batna-and-how-to-build-one/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/what-is-batna-and-how-to-build-one/A BATNA is what you will really do if the deal fails. Learn to build a real one in steps, and why it is your true power in a salary, price or contract talk.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/you-can-negotiate-anything-review/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/you-can-negotiate-anything-review/An honest review of You Can Negotiate Anything by Herb Cohen: power, time and information, what still works, where the stories fail, and what to use.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/48-laws-of-power-review/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/48-laws-of-power-review/Our verdict on Robert Greene's The 48 Laws of Power: what is true about power, which laws backfire at work, and how to use it cleanly.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/art-of-seduction-review/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/art-of-seduction-review/An honest review of Robert Greene's The Art of Seduction: what it gets right about attraction, where it turns manipulative, and the clean version.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/case-fouquet-outshines-the-king/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/case-fouquet-outshines-the-king/In 1661 Nicolas Fouquet threw a dazzling party for Louis XIV and was arrested soon after. What it teaches an employee who outshines a boss.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/case-the-invisible-high-performer/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/case-the-invisible-high-performer/A composite story of a skilled analyst passed over for promotion, and the three changes that made her work seen, trusted and wanted.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/getting-to-yes-review/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/getting-to-yes-review/An honest review of Getting to Yes by Fisher, Ury and Patton: four rules, the BATNA idea, where it breaks, and how it compares with Chris Voss.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-ask-for-a-raise/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-ask-for-a-raise/A step-by-step plan to ask for a raise: know your number, build options, make the ask, handle no, and keep the relationship strong.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-be-respected-and-liked/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-be-respected-and-liked/Only-nice people get walked on, only-tough people get resented. How to be warm and strong at once, with scripts for work, friends and family.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-spot-manipulation/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/how-to-spot-manipulation/The common manipulation tactics at work and at home, how to spot each one, and a calm line you can say back. Defence only, no tricks.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/in-sheeps-clothing-review/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/in-sheeps-clothing-review/Our review of George K. Simon's In Sheep's Clothing: what it teaches about covert aggression, where it is too simple, and how to use it safely.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/influence-review/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/influence-review/Our review of Robert Cialdini's Influence: the six triggers behind a quick yes, where the evidence is thin, and how to use them honestly.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/negotiation-guide/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/negotiation-guide/A practical negotiation guide for salary, deals and everyday asks: know your walk-away, build options, read the feeling, and keep the relationship.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/never-split-the-difference-review/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/never-split-the-difference-review/An honest review of Chris Voss's Never Split the Difference: the five ideas that matter, three places it breaks, and how to use it without being a jerk.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/office-politics/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/office-politics/Office politics is real, and ignoring it costs you. Learn to read the game, build allies, protect yourself and win while keeping your name clean.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/power-at-work/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/power-at-work/A plain guide to real power at work: how people judge you, how to show strength with warmth, stay calm, and move things without a fight.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/stay-calm-when-attacked-in-a-meeting/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/stay-calm-when-attacked-in-a-meeting/A boss or colleague cuts you down in front of others. What to do in the first ten seconds, in the rest of the meeting, and afterwards.https://theupperhandclub.com/en/when-someone-takes-credit-for-your-work/https://theupperhandclub.com/en/when-someone-takes-credit-for-your-work/A colleague or boss took credit for your work. How to prevent it, respond calmly, escalate if needed, and know when to let it go.